Moral of the story, there’s strength in being shy

Never deny the power that lies within the hands of the introverted.

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“Introverts live in two worlds: We visit the world of people, but solitude and the inner world will always be our home”- Jenn Granneman

Makayla Bech, Staff Writer

“Makayla, you have been quiet this entire time; is something wrong?” “No I’m good, nothing is wrong!”

“Then why are you not talking?”

This is a conversation that I have been involved in a multitude of times throughout my life. I cannot recall a time when I have not been reserved for it is my nature to listen and observe rather than speak at a constant. From an outsider’s perspective, identifying a young girl that looks innocent but is ‘afraid’ to speak up can look rather concerning. However, I beg anyone that is in the presence of someone that is being quiet to not ask them the reasoning as to why they are not voicing their inner monologue into the outer environment. Coming from someone who has run into this conversation many times, it gets redundant and never fails to make an individual uncomfortable.

In regards to the ideal of comfort, for naturally introverted people, comfort comes from within. It often does not assist us to speak constantly when we see no concern to intervene into a conversation. We introverts are absorbers rather than reactors. We notice just about everything that surrounds us, whereas those who voice themselves are more prone to missing key information that is being discussed in a conversation. Also, extroverts are steadily tallying up the next bright idea that they want to deliberate into exchange and therefore not recalling the actual subject of conversation.

Despite my confusion of people that speak their mind willingly, I take pride in my nature. I absolutely adore the aspect of myself that prefers to be independent and reserved. I believe that this is a strength that not many people can admire. For introverts hear everything that goes on around them and therefore develop their hearings into wisdom. I grew up in a household of three older sisters and a brother. Yes, there was an immense amount of chaos constantly and chatter that rarely ever banished to silence even in the middle of the night. Me, being the youngest out of all of my siblings, I was always the one that never partook in the constant conversation and gossip circulating the home. What I did do, was listen and absorb every detail that was being discussed and attributed it to strategize ways to anger my siblings the next time they annoyed me. A prominent memory that I withhold of myself utilizing this strategy was when my brother, Joseph, violated our pinky promise and revealed to our mom that I was the one that let our pet hermit crabs roam freely around the house. To be fair, we never took the time to set up a proper habitual setting for these crabs and I felt horrible for them because they watched as I was able to move and go wherever I wanted, while they were stuck in their cardboard box. Joseph was in complete agreeance with me; however, he violated our secrecy when I didn’t want to watch his selected movie and I wanted to watch princesses instead. He then removed himself from the living room and hunted my mom down to break the news to her. Now, one may think that I had failed; however, what I did next was in thanks to my listening skills. The news had broken and I was now in the danger zone, so I knew I needed to get my ammunition ready at once. My brain recalled the time when Joseph had cried about not being able to buy the $100 habitat that we saw at the pet store when we purchased the crabs. I took that memory and worded it so that I could show that I was only having sympathy for Joseph and trying to comfort him, for he was so upset about the crabs not having a proper home. Now, I know that it sounds completely manipulative and petty, however it was all completely factual and I never did deny the fact that I did free the crabs. My strategy was a success and I was freed with no charge of lost playtime, because who could punish a child for telling the truth?

There is a psychology behind introverted humans that separate us from the rest of our species. We are dignified by ourselves and independent in thought. We don’t need the justification of our knowledge being spilt out in chatty conversation but would rather save it for a time when it is beneficial to assist the corrections of other’s mistakes, spread around advice that we learned simply from hearing other people whimper over their wrongdoings, never to make the mistake ourselves, and storing audible memories in our heads that can benefit ourselves and the greater good. The main beneficial attribute of being an introvert is that we “think before we speak” (psychology.org). Nothing we elaborate on is a spur of the moment thought but rather a skillfully articulated piece of knowledge that provides great sociability into conversation. Think before you deny the great power that an introvert withholds within their head.